Identity Episodes

In this episode of The LightInside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the concept of conditional self-worth and its impact on our relationships. He examines the subconscious and unconscious patterns that contribute to the "nice guy syndrome," exploring how early attachment wounds and covert social contracts shape our behaviors. The discussion highlights the chronic issues of over-acquiescence or ‘people-pleasing’, avoidance, and emotional dependency—prompting listeners to reflect on whether thes...

In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey engages in a thought-provoking discussion with transformative wellness coach Lori Beth Martin. Together, they delve into the complexities of identity and anticipatory anxiety as individuals approach pre and early retirement. Lori Beth, a passionate advocate for women over 50, shares her insights on redefining retirement as a journey toward purpose and financial freedom. Drawing from her own experiences of reinventing her midlife, she empowers li...

In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the importance of healthy connections in our lives. He delves into the spiritual journey of forming these connections and the mental obstacles that can hinder them. By examining the influence of early childhood associations and conditioning, Jeffrey and his guests shed light on how they shape our perceptions of love, trust, and emotional security. Additionally, he highlights the wisdom of a monk and a retired neurosurgeon in t...

In this episode, guest, Rachel Lavin and host Jeffrey Besecker, discuss healthy ego development and empowering our ego to work for us rather than against us. "I struggled with that for so long until I just got tired of the chatter. I got tired of the anguish and I got tired of feeling like I wasn't living my authentic life." -guest, author, fitness trainer, and well-being coach, Rachel Lavin The guest, Rachel, is a personal trainer, health coach, body love educator, and author of the book "Don...

Marketing Professor, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia and host, Jeffrey Besecker discussed the psychology of love and how it applies to why people love 'things', with Aaron being the first to publish empirical work on the topic. They discussed how pleasure and identity are two factors that guide people to the things they love, and how love is connected to bonding in other mammals. Aaron Ahuvia suggests that loving something is finding it to be so excellent that you want to make it part of who you are. He exp...

Manuj Aggarwal was an exceptionally brilliant and vibrant child. Burdened by a family history of mental illness, he searches for a new lease on life by unlocking the source of his childhood wounds and reclaiming his inner authority to restore balance and abundance throughout his life. “By understanding the wounded child and its roots, we can gain insights into the emotional landscape guiding us all.” - Manuj Aggarwal My special guest is: Manuj Aggarwal Manuj Aggarwal is a shining example of o...

Knowledge. It’s one of the only resources that grows as we share it. Yet sometimes, that’s not so easy. Why do we sometimes find it so difficult to share our knowledge? And furthermore - why does at times it seem so challenging to accept the valid input and constructive criticism of others? Since ancient times, when the words “know thyself” were inscribed at the Temple of Apollo at Delphi, sages and philosophers have hailed the importance of self-knowledge. Modern research, however, has called...

Your inner voice. That light inside - the being that we are being. Society and our daily interactions seem to increasingly focus on exploring the concept of "authenticity." Even going so far as to question - Does a self exist at all? As a result, we are left scrambling to find a meaningful way to define when someone is acting genuinely and authentically. What does this seemingly mystical and confounding thing look like and how do we recognize it? Finding our “voice” is often attributed to bei...

Joining us this week for part two of this discussion of The Masks We Wear is Voice Dialogue and Shadow Alchemist- Meghan Fischer. Happiness is an inside job. A job we shouldn’t assign to anyone else but our true self. Today we look at how we call up those shadowy, repetitive thoughts that often can swirl around in our heads- Leading us to sabotage our best intentions, keeping us from reaching our light inside and blocking our ability to truly shine. Tune to to find out how we finally remove thos...